Pornography is a Depressant

You’ve most likely heard that alcohol is a depressant right? Well, so is pornography and masturbation. What do I mean? If you haven’t already experienced this then you will eventually if you are addicted to either porn or masturbation. There’s the excitement and then there are the low feelings of lack of self control that follow.

Alcohol is a bit easier for people to understand when it comes to analyzing an addiction. Its simple right, you’re putting a substance in the body that is unhealthy. Typically, anything that is unhealthy physically is also unhealthy mentally as you are not feeling the best you could. So how is pornography or masturbation similar to this?

If you agree that porn or masturbation can be addictive then you agree that they are not right for your mental and physical health. In other words they are foreign to a healthy lifestyle in general and cause more pain than excitement. Anything introduced to the mind is introduced to the body. When you engage in mentally unhealthy activities you will experience both mental and physical consequences. These consequences are usually in the form of some level of depression or lethargy.

So why build the case that porn is a depressant? The reason is that you can get “stuck in a rut” and not understand why. Alcoholics continue to drink because they have a continuous feeling of depression and start to believe there is no other way to relieve said depression other than to have another drink. The same applies to porn or masturbation. You feel low shortly after acting out or the next day and return to the only source of fast acting temporary excitement you know. Drugs and alcohol are not addicting because they cause pain. They are addicting because they are a constant cycle of temporary rushes and let downs.

There is a way out of this miserable cycle. It’s certainly not easy but it’s also not as difficult as you may think. In fact I would compare it, at least for some people, to trying to motivate yourself to go to the gym every day. Not easy but once you get in the rhythm of a routine you find it easier.

Just like with alcohol or drugs there is a detox and readjustment period you need to endure before gaining freedom from strong urges to return to the drug of choice. This period of time usually seems unbearable to most and hence the biggest reason for staying in the addictive cycle. The interesting thing is the body is very adaptive and can readjust itself in a matter of days or weeks. This doesn’t mean the fight is over but perhaps easier than before. There is always the possibility of relapsing if you get lazy, similar to getting lazy with your gym routine.

One biological fact I should point that may contribute to the depression associated with viewing pornography and masturbating is that studies have shown that about 4 times more prolactin(the hormone that relaxes you after orgasm) is released during orgasm with a commited sexual partner(spouse) than when orgasm is done alone. This contribues both to the addictive factor and the discontent factor since you’re not using the body as it was designed to be used. The reason for this is emotions. Emotions, even in guys, are a huge part of a sexual bond and a “full” orgasm. Without the proper emotional connection you are missing a huge part of the equation in a truly satisfying sexual bond. You are essentially trying to fulfill a desire and void within with something that will never satisfy you. Hence the addiction cycle.

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  2. I have four questions. Please reply.

    I have not masturbated in 42 days now. My masturbation was linked directly to my pornography addiction. Although I do not masturbate no more I always think about doing it. My first question is do I eventually have to do it? And if I should do it, should it be to something addicting like pornography or just my imagination? I fear I might get readdicted to pornography & masturbation. One reason I feel I should do it is sometimes the thoughts get so strong, and the fact that I leak “fluid” even though I don’t recall having a wet dream. So does this justify doing it?

    Its important for me to mention that I still have a major problem still with pornography because despite not masturbating I still look at it! Sometimes daily, sometimes every 3 to 4 days for 5 to 20minutes a day. I feel this is unhealthy after visiting your website because at first I justified because I felt I needed to see it to calm myself down, and due to my lack of imagination ( which is true because I feel the pornographic images have taken over any other sexual thoughts). My question here is would it be healthy to look at it once a month? Also how do I stop looking at it daily/or every 3-4 days and is this really damaging me or is it just merely my guilt?

    And my last question is what’s next? If I don’t masturbate, and not look at porn for a long time what will become of my sexuality? WIll I return to a more innocent time when sexuality was all still very new to me?
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    For anyone who wants to know how I stopped masturbating I literally used what was in another article without ever reading it. I used absolute will power and thinking about thinking about it. I found the first couple of days extremely hard, but as I’m on my 43rd day now I just don’t want to break my accomplishment and as well I feel I may get re-addicted. Here’s a fourth question, should I stop thinking about my “accomplishment?” Or will I reach a point where I don’t have to think about it at all?

    • Congrats on going 43 days, i recently got to 24 days but it was broken due to pornography. I have since slipped up twice in the last 6 days, and it just seems like the hardest thing is to get started. When i was on my run of 24 days, i just kept wanting to go without doing it and wanted to see if i could go a month without doing it, but now i’m sort of stuck. 1 day i wont even think about it and the next i’ll get a feeling like i know it’s coming, i just cant seem to get a handle on stopping it now. But i have confidence in myself, i feel like i can get a streak going of a couple days without and if i do then who knows, maybe i just might be able to beat this thing.

    • My boyfriend has an addiction to porn and masturbation, but refuses to see his problem. I’m lucky if I get to have him to myself once a month, we have been together for almost 3 years. I’m now seeing a counselor because it has cause some serious anxiety issues and depression for me, but he still doesn’t see it but as a harmless, and I quote “I don’t see it as a sexual act”, just something he does. He watches porn and masturbates on average of 3 to 4 times a day depending on when I’m not home or I’m sleeping. He wakes up and does it, comes home from lunch and does it, and before he goes to bed. If I leave the house between these times when he’s home he’s doing it. I’ve become obsessed with his addiction, and to the point I’m not helping anymore but hurting the relationship when I just want him to see that it’s not just me hurting us. I’m changing my habits, or at least working hard at doing it so I don’t push him away more and he’s helping me with such. I have no problems with him satisfying me, and I show him that on a daily basis. I love him and don’t want to loose him over something like this. I’ve done all I can, now I’m turning to those with similar issues for help. Please! I’m desperate now … :(

      What I need is to know how do I get him to realize that he’s got a problem, it is a sexual addiction, and he’s also hurting us?

      • Hi Hurt, I just wanted u to know that I am in the same situation. my partner of 8years also has a porn and masturbation addiction that he will not admit to. I am also lucky to have him to myself once a month, We have had so many fights about it in the past and now again. For some reason he likes to do it while Im at home & I no he does it. Now whenever he is on the computer Im paranoid that he is looking at porn. I am now scared to even try and be with him as I dont want to be rejected as he most likely masturbated that day. It is realy hurting me as I am feeling depressed and not good enough, I try & dress pretty for him & that never works. I really think that he prefers porn over me, sometimes I wonder why does he even want me? What am I here for? I know he loves me & I love him but this is just ruining our relationship. I have tried talking to him so many times but he just denys it and says thats its all in my head. I really need help as I dont want to break up with him over this. HELP!!!

        • I have a 9 year disaster myself. My boyfriend was asked to leave our home state by a judge that said he was beyond any help the court could offer.He had a criminal historyGettin of voyerisim for over 20 years. Forced to move to Florida he
          Transferred voyerisim for web porn. He ignores me, he,s distant, snotty, always un happy, no ambition, no goals. Just lives to sneak away and jack his dick. I don,t have the problem with porn Im not a prude. I have a problem with him
          Getting all the sex he wants and I cant even get a hug, a kiss
          Conversation and lets not forget, sex.I get it 2 maybe 3 times a month and He hates me even bothering him with something so trivial as my need for sex. We havent had loveable sex in 7 years. I adore this man thats why I stay, but I live a sick ass life to do it. I am middle aged but put together well, dress well, make good money, pay over 1/2 the bills, 123 lbs, hell my boobs dont even sag, and yet totaly
          Ignored all for PORN. I will not live one more year like this.

  3. You’re doing yourself a horrible disfavor by continuing to view porn while trying to stop masturbating, that’s like continuing to see a mistress and stop cheating on your wife!

  4. @ DS:

    first of all, I would like to congratulate you on your 43rd day. and the reason you have lasted 43 days is because you have built momentum which helps you keep going. The answer to your question of should you stop thinking about your “Accomplishment”, think about it as long as it keeps you going to take it a step further i would suggest thinking about your next accomplishment.
    It could be to stop looking at pornography, or something you feel passionate about.

    Best wishes

  5. I dealt with this same problem. When i went 24 days without masturbating, i went about 18 without viewing porn…eventually i lost control. It’s not easy to do, almost everyone has access to a computer and u get an urge sometimes. Hopefully he stopped and kept his streak going unlike me, but you have to keep a positive outlook or you’re gonna blow it.

  6. i know i get depressed when i do it, and then i start to get upbeat about stopping my masturbation, only to do it again. What can i do? i just hate feeling helpless about masturbation. I feel like i cant control when i do it. Some times i’ll have a handle on it, and then i just get a feeling like i know i cant help it, and i end up doing it. Is there any way to stop that feeling?

  7. I’m 15 years old and I’m addicyed to masturbation and have seen my share of porn. I hate it. The very thought of it makes me sick. I call myself a Christian, but I am hopelessly addicted to these things. It’s ruining my life. I need to stop. I masturbate about 2 or 3 times a day and it makes me feel tired and sometimes sick the rest of the day. I have tried to stop for years. I have failed every time. I feel embarrassed to tell anyone in my family about my problem. But I’m getting close to exploading. They don’t understand why I’m always in a bad mood and frustrated. It’s all a chain reaction to a horrible life. First I look at porn, which makes me masturbate, which makes me tired, which makes me not exercize, which makes me depressed. I need help. If anyone wants to contact me to help with advice.

    • Nathan, that’s exactly where I was when I was 15. I know that your post is a few months old now, and I would be thrilled if you are already able to tell me abou your success. But you should know that I went 3 years of being too embarassed to tell my parents that I had a problem with masturbation because I knew that they would not be happy with it. So many times I wanted to let it all out, but then I go scared and decided I could do it on my own, One day I got a burning feeling waiting for them to come home and I knew it wouldn’t leave unless I blurted it all out. So the second they walked in the door I told them before I could chicken out. And it’s what finally helped me to quit. They were disapointed, but supportive. I relapsed one more time, but I couldn’ disappoint my mom anymore. I’ve now gone 4 years without masturbating and it feels wonderful. Sometimes it’s been tempting to do it just once and that’s it, but deep down I know that can’t work. The longer I’ve gone the less I get tempted to masturbate.

  8. Nate I too struggle with porn. Listen one word JESUS. For real man. Whenever u feel the need to go on the sides, Call on His Name, run out go out call a friend. Call his name call his name call his name. This thing is so hard and has us become slaves to it. We have become slaves to Pornography.WOW. We need to master it, its hard but we need His God’s power. Ask someone how to receive His Power. I myself will be trying this with you. WE NEED DELIVERANCE. It has a hold of us. I know many people especially Christians going through this. Isnt funny how its targeting Christians, ministers, Evangelist Pastors, people who work for the Kingdom???/ Its out to destroy us and master us. I cant let it. Write me back

  9. I’ve always felt self abuse to be an unnatural act… and yet, if you go through the trouble to research this private subject, you will find widespread acceptance of masturbation as a healthy act. What a load of shit. I can tell you, after being an active member of the church, listening to both sides of the story, personally knowing the depressed, the blessed, and everyone in between, that masturbation is a lustful, sinful act. It is a waste of passion, only perpetuated by the cesspool that is the American social state. This act, this self-loving sin, will confuse this generation. Only a man no longer in contact with his most blessed and intimate gift, could arrive at the convoluted, back ass-wards opinion that beating off for nothing more than personal pleasure is healthy, fulfilling experience. I feel like that person doesn’t deserve a penis. Don’t look at pornography, don’t waste your seed vicariously on a 2-dimensional whore. Be a man. Find a real woman. Do what you know in your heart is true.

  10. Hi
    Today would be the first time in my life that i would actually admit to myself that i have a problem with masturbation and porn. this has been going on for years in my life and it had made a home for its self in my life some where and comes out when it wants to. It is really a depressant. I have struggled with this for a very long time. I need help. I am a christian, but each time i want to live that holy life, i slip and fall. i have been dying to tell my friends and family members but i am too ashamed to even say a word about it. it makes me sick. I sometimes hate my self for doing such an evil dirty foolish thing as this…I know to call the name of Jesus but i can’t seem to do so when i start. i am sick of this kind of life. I am single, hoping to be married one day and have kids, i am afraid that it would hinder me fro have a happy life. i need to stop this. i need help..ideas?

  11. So I just goolge searched addiction to porn and i found this site. Im really glad i did. I need help. I am 25 and for years i have been addicted to porn and masterbation. I never saw it as a problem. because of my behaviour i am losing everyone around me. I am destroying every decent aspect of my life. I have pushed my addiction to the point i like making homevideos, pics with the girls ive been with. almost like a stamp collection of homemade porn. Here’s what has caused me to beleive i have a problem..
    I recently got caught for copying a photo on my roomates computer of his gf topless. It was a complete accident that i stumbled upon the photo but where i went wrong is that i sent it to myself in an email. Well my girlfriend didnt find it too amusing. she broke up with me and told my roomate. he got pissed and kicked me out. I was already moving out this weekend but he asked i left by the next day. so this is where im at.
    when i was younger in my mid teens i would masterbate constantly. to even the fuzzy porn channels that didnt come in all the way. after reading a little bit on porn addiction i realize i have a problem. I realy wish it didnt tear my relationship apart but now i am living with the concequences. i feel ashamed and the lowest of my entire life. this all happened 2-3 days ago and im going crazy. I am afraid to be known. i havent gone to school in fear that someone might know. I am really scared about this going on facebook or something. its too easy to slander someone these days and i dont know what to do. if you have any suggestions on help i would appreciate it. i literally dont have a friend in the world right now that i can go to this with. im ashamed to even speak to anyone i know. thanks

  12. Hey David, im in a similar situation as you….know that im there for you. Even though I don’t know you. Im in a similar fear state….ive done things that I fear my family will find out about with this stuff. I’ve been addicted since I was 13 years old. Been ashamed of it from year one….but never knew how best to go about talking about it. And you know….the years build on and on, and the longer it takes to come out, the harder it is to spill it out to the people who care about us….

    My advice to you is to be calm about it…..in my situation I have used the breathing technique he talked about on his site here….and it has literally ended my addiction so far…..its kind of a dumb way, but I tested it. I got on a computer last night for the entire night, and any time any pang of temptation came I did deep breathing to control and calm myself down…..Its amazing.

    My e-mail is freemyself53 at yahoo.com if you want to talk some more David, same for anyone else here……im committed to helping others overcome what I have just barely overcome, I don’t think the fight is over, but I am gaining the upper hand! Thanks a ton to this site…You are an amazing person!

    And David, your a great person too, you have made bad decisions, like all of us. Don’t let that define who you are though and what your future still holds for you!

  13. Hey David, im in a similar situation as you….know that im there for you. Even though I don’t know you. Im in a similar fear state….ive done things that I fear my family will find out about with this stuff. I’ve been addicted since I was 13 years old. Been ashamed of it from year one….but never knew how best to go about talking about it. And you know….the years build on and on, and the longer it takes to come out, the harder it is to spill it out to the people who care about us….

    My advice to you is to be calm about it…..in my situation I have used the breathing technique he talked about on his site here….and it has literally ended my addiction so far…..its kind of a dumb way, but I tested it. I got on a computer last night for the entire night, and any time any pang of temptation came I did deep breathing to control and calm myself down…..Its amazing.

    My e-mail is freemyself53 at yahoo.com if you want to talk some more David, same for anyone else here……im committed to helping others overcome what I have just barely overcome, I don’t think the fight is over, but I am gaining the upper hand! Thanks a ton to this site…You are an amazing person!

    And David, your a great person too, you have made bad decisions, like all of us. Don’t let that define who you are though and what your future still holds for you!

    (note to web owner): If I double-posted, accident. Apologize if I did.

  14. Strange story this, 43 days without porn. I wonder how come you watch porn and yet you can refrain. OK, I know it works differently with different people. for me it was different. In my nine year history, I never refrained from masturbating even for two weeks at a stretch. I would reach hardly six or seven days before I gave in. Then I was once searching on net for written pornographic material and found exactly the opposite of what I was searching. Most importantly I found that I was not alone and it was the same everywhere. All those addicted had the same feelings as I had. I realized the seriousness of the matter and started a journey back. and straight away I was without porn for 32 days. leave apart masturbating, I did not watch a single pornographic image. But something happened and I relapsed, not all of a sudden but in couple of days time and that too in steps. but then I continued for 18 more days with out porn but after that it was hardly two or three days. I relapsed some four to five times in between and then I found the more useful way that was to replace my addiction with something positive. I started writing and whenever I have free time I write instead of surfing. Now I am 35 days without it again but I don’t know how to make myself stronger to ensure my never relapsing back.

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