How to Stop Porn Addiction

There is much advice on this site about how to stop porn addiction. There is quite a range of suggestions involving physical and mental techniques. One of the top contributing factors to an addiction is an addiction to a certain thought pattern. Meaning you have been thinking a certain way for so long that it is difficult to think any other way. However, without completely changing the thought process that has assisted in keeping you in addiction you cannot hope for any long lasting success.

If you do not work out your emotions and thoughts then you will return to your vices. I will focus on thoughts for a moment here since everything stems from them, including emotions. I was reading an interesting article today written by Jonathan Leger titled “Think low and you will stay low”. This article highlighted the importance of overcoming mental barriers before you can overcome physical one. If you were to do this in the opposite order you would just return to what you have not worked out in your heart and mind and the cycle would repeat itself.

So you want to know how to stop porn addiction or any addiction. Start believing in yourself first because there is nothing that you cannot overcome if you believe and persevere. This is the first step and is very necessary. Stop all the negative self talk and start building yourself up with positive thoughts that cause you to believe in yourself no matter how many mistakes you have made.

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3 Steps to Overcome Porn

Helps with:

  • Porn Addiction
  • Masturbation Addiction
  • Sexual Addiction
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62 thoughts on “How to Stop Porn Addiction

    • I am still fighting this constant battle but i do believe no battle is won without Jesus Christ so if you keep him first you will start witnessing a miraclious change happening in front of your eyes and remember idle time is the devil’s workshop so keep your hearts with all diligence because out of it will flow every issue of life.

  1. Porn Addiction is not just chemical, it’s a moral issue. While there is great software out there to help you: Covenant Eyes, and lots of other stories like you: http://www.victimsofpornography.org/. I encourage you to go to God, completely trying it ‘His way’. Talk to someone…a pastor or Christian counselor who you don’t know. Many Christians deal with pornography and lust issues. My own husband has been healed of this issue. He keeps certain barriers in place (like Covenant eyes software, password on my computer, accountability to other men), but what keeps him continuously away from even impure thoughts, is God. Please never stop trying to break this…it only gets worse. But the path to freedom may be difficult and long. Keep striving!

  2. The amazing thing about this article is the truth in the “self talk”. So many things from the errors in typing to little slip ups around the house. Things that naturally occur, but all of a sudden I have told myself how “bad” I am. As I have struggled with this awful addiction, I have also seen my sales in my company decrease over the past year. Almost like I have sub consciously told myself I am not worth the bigger sales.

    Positive self talk is so critical to so much we do.

  3. You are so right. This problem attacked me soon as I started looking down on myself after a bad spell of disappointments and losses in my life. I believe I can break free, but I need God to control my eyes and my thoughts. Help me pray if you are reading this. God bless.

  4. This battle is one of the hardest thing in life and one of the most addictive things I’ve come to. It struck me hard and early and I’ve been falling ever since. I keep trying to avoid it but it just keeps getting me again and again. Its agonizing because after its over I’m like ‘Wtf why did I do that’. I just got to keep with God and battle through it. Please pray for me. It hurts so much.

    • I KNOW HOW IT IS MIKE IT GETS YOU ALL THE TIME. I STARTED WITH PORNWHEN I WAS 6YEARS OLD,AND IS STILLS GET TO ME WHEN IAM OLDER.I USE TO BE IN A HARD CORE BIKER CLUB,WHEN I WAS 14YEARS OLD,AND I DID WHAT I LOVE TO DO WAS PORN VIDEOS,I DID THE REAL THING. LOOK IAM SAVED AND KNOW JESUS AS MY SAVER. AND THE BATTLE THROUGH IT GET HARDER AND HARDER. SOME TIME PASTORS AND PEOPLE OF THE CHURCH LOOKS AT US, LIKE WE ARE NOTHING BECAUSE WE ARE HAVEING A HARD TIME WITH PORN, THE ONES THAT KNOW ABOUT IS. LOOK ME BEING A MINISTER AND HAVEING A STREET MINISTRY IS HARD FOR ME NOT TO THINK OF PORN. WHEN I WAS 10YEARS OLD I HAD A REAL WOMAN TO HAVE SEX WITH AND I HAD OVER 300 PORN MAGS. I THINK IF YOU AND ME EMAIL EACH OTHER GOD CAN HELP US BOTH. EMAIL ME IF YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT THIS.WE NEED EACH OTHER TO HELP OTHERS THAT ARE GOING THROUGH THIS BATTLE.AND YES I WILL KEEP YOU UP IN PRAYER MIKE. MINISTER JACK

      • Hey so i have a problem. I am addicted to porn and i cant stop after i look at it i dont see why i like it but the thrill is nice. I know its wrong and i need to stop! I am a christian and surrounded by Christan friends. And i read your thing online at newlifehabits.com and just wondering how i can stop!

        • I need help Very badly I have done porn for about 6 years and there is no way I can stop unless God changes me dramatically. If there is 1 thing I hate the most is my addiction. I think about it every day and I get in trouble with my parents because they say I’m having a bad attitude but I constantly think about how to stop. God will take care of anyone in need and hope He helps everyone here.

      • hello jack i have the same problem and you and mike described exactly how i feel. id love to have someone to talk to about this because i’ve never talked about it to anyone and i really need any help i can get..so if we could email each other about it would be really helpful.. :)

      • I am grateful for finding this site. I recently confronted my husband about his porn addiction, and he is in denial. It had caused a lot of damage to our marriage, and I’m praying he will admit to this addiction n get help for our sake.

    • Mike,

      It actually hit me, later in life, when I was unfortunately introduced to it in a series of events that started me on this downslide.

      I have always had issues of depression, low self esteem, etc.. from the earliest of ages. Why??? who knows, but it is how it is… I too also state, WTF??? also…. I have attempted to stay active, healthy, etc.. but it is those times, when things slow down, that my mind wanders to lustful thoughts.

      I will say that through my depression, low self esteem, and trying to prioritize my life (even through family struggles), etc.. I have put off dating at this time. It has been years since I have dated. It isn’t because of porn, it is because of my low esteem issues, and in short, not being good enough. Then when I am by myself, depressed, etc.. there it is, time for another porn episode. It is a short time cure, but long time only adds to the curse.

      I pray also that God will help me be the guy I want to be so as to not be in positions of down times, etc… God Bless us all who are trying to beat this damn work of Satan.

  5. I think one of the worst things about pornography addiction is that it isolates you from everyone else. There are interventions due to alcoholism, but how often do you hear of pornography interventions. I think the first step in recovery is admitting you have a problem and know that there are other people out there who have the same struggle as you.

    • Luke your dead on. If you mention porn addiction, sex, etc.. America is afraid to face these situations as a whole. Alcohol, Tabacco, etc.. are profitable for Lobbyist so they always find ways to have your attitude adjusted, through 12 steps, etc…

      But what is sad, is that alcohol, tabacco is man made ( now a disease) but where sexual problems occur ie.. addiction then your a freak. I trust and believe that God did give us sexual urges for the proper time, etc.. but the sad thing is that whether your married or not, you still can get the urges, naturally.

      Unlike alcohol, for example, if you never drank a drink, then most don’t have the urge for alcohol, etc.. but you can’t say that for sex. The urge is there even if your a virgin, and that is what makes it hard for most people. It is internal, natural, and since that is the case, hard to control.
      Would be easy if all it took was to not pick up a glass of alcohol, etc…. It doesn’t matter what you do, if your healthy, then it will be there. AND SOCIETY DOESN’T HELP EITHER. ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY/ HOLLYWOOD, PROFIT OFF THE SAME ACTIONS NORMAL PEOPLE ARE GETTING DEMEANED, CAUGHT, BUSTED, ETC.. FOR….
      I just hope/ pray thrdr Satanic works are finally demolished by our Lord and Savior, before it is to late….. God Bless you all and thanks for this great site.

  6. I still now have the same problem for a time. I want to marry one lady whom I love most and the problem is that I when I get bored I end up doing this again and again. I have prayed to God and promised him never to do it but I keep on doing . Please help me.

  7. I am very ashamed of my self everytime i commit this. I try to get it out of my mind. I feel very guilty!! I may have confessed this to a priest many times but it keeps on comming back. I just stay faithful and pray to the Lord that one day, i will change, God Bless and thank you for the advice, God Bless you.

  8. I have had a problem with this since I was young, I assumed I would stop once I was married but I didn’t. This really effects my relationship with my wife, myself and God. I have had some success through hypnosis mp3′s but the journey seems to be longer than I thought. I pray we will all be free of this in the near future.

  9. I feel ashamed of myself. I have done many sick things. Even though admitting to myself that I have this problem (porn addiction) and that there’s lots of other people undergoing the same struggle, I still find it impossible to stop the addiction. Confessing here to you (With the same problem or not) and most importantly to Jesus Christ, I feel, is the only way to success and a full recovery…

    I’ve been brought up as a Christian by GREAT parents who taught me from an early age the differences between right and wrong. I completely understood these differences and still do. How the hell, then, did I came to be where I am now??? The most probable answer I can think of is the Devil. Obviously! But why me? Why am I the one to be the less fortunate than most off the people around me?? Truthfully I guess it has to be something to do with one’s purpose in life..

    As I know that there is nothing that’s impossible to God, I believe it obvious that I can only be cured through Him. He is the One that was crucified in order for me to be saved from my corruptible life!! I am therefore admitting my crimes to Jesus and asking Him to forgive me and to never again let me resume my crimes, because I know that he promises us that He will, in time, provide us that which we ask from Him! Thank you Jesus!

    I believe that praying to Him, everyday, asking Him to relieve us of our addiction and thanking him for everything he has done for us already and also praying for each other, we truly CAN and WILL be cured!! Remember NEVER to give up on Jesus – You will NOT be disappointed (He promises that too!)

  10. I really do wonder why Porn and masturbation is a real problem to us today. I am also struggling with it. Though it pains me when I fall into it but I do believe God will not leave me to perish. Iwant to be truely free from Porn and I want Jesus to please help me out.

  11. i need help , i kno god is always there 4 me but i still fall into porn , n after words i cant belive its so storg and wat i just did

    • I my self as a son of a pastor and a choir singer struggle with the same temptation. And it hard to believe that I been trying to quit for over 8 years.

      The great apostle Paul said it best In Romans

      Romans 7:15 NLT
      I don’t really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. Instead, I do what I hate.

      We need to under stand that as real as God is the devil and his Demond’s are just as real. The battle is not against flesh and blood but against spiritual darkness.

      The bible tells us to pray against temptations, well do we.
      We need to pray every morning that we might not fall into temptaion.

  12. I do not have porn issues. In fact my SOC-402 class essay is on the problems of porn. I was interested in the 7 steps to beat porn addiction. I am a pastor of a church and I have a certification with the American Association of Christian Counselors. Until I got into the ministry 15 years ago I had no idea how prevalent the problem is with not only parishioners in the church but with the pastors and the clergy. I look forward to your response.

    ken

  13. I have been fighting this battle for years. I have given my problem over to God so many times I have lost count. At the moment it looks like it may have cost me my marriage. I am determined not to fail at kicking this habit because it is what I desire in my heart. My wife is not sure she can believe me and may not be willing to stay with me. I promised her so many times it was over and she has lost her trust in me. I have decided that my family and my marriage must win and I have again asked God for help. I know porn can never again be a part of my life no matter what happens. When I die I want God to say that he is proud of me for accepting his help in overcoming this problem. Thanks for having a place such as this web site to help us all. I pray that with God’s help everyone that comes here is healed.

  14. I have made it down to one day this week looking at porn, not easy, everyone who is here knows that. The difficult part has been trying to detach sex from everyday activities. The best strategy for me has been to be where temptation isn’t. For me home is definitely not where the heart is, home is where a closed door and dsl access is. Also, there is a great technique I picked up from this site. Put a rubber band around your wrist; it should be tight enough to remind yourself why it is there in the first place. When you find yourself thinking about sex, porn, or getting on the internet to “check your email.” Give yourself a snap from that rubber band, it works but it leaves a nasty indentation on your wrist. Also, don’t linger on tv commercials or shows you find even mildly stimulating, that has been how I have relapsed many a time. Find activities that create an endorphin rush, mountain biking, motorcycles, anything fast and intricate in nature the requires complete concentration. Mentally be where porn isn’t, if your thoughts are directed at anything else, and I mean ANYTHING you may have bought yourself one day free from porn. The best advice I can give is cut your tether to the computer; after you have found any information you immediately require SHUT IT OFF and go elsewhere. Remind yourself daily; Quitting porn is possible I am not powerless against this, one day free is a victory, one hour free is a victory. Small steps are significant, small steps are what is required. Riding a bike, tying your shoelaces, learning to drive a manual transmission, those things took practice, and so will this. If sobriety truly means anything to you, practice at regaining your mental health, sex isn’t deviant, it is how people physically express love for each-other. And remember this isn’t just for you, this is to regain love and intimacy for those in your life, selfish desires, hiding, and repressing emotions is how all of this escalated out of control in the first place. If you can find a strong enough reason to change I promise that you will. And above all: HAVE FAITH IN YOURSELF YOU HAVE THE POWER TO ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING YOU SET YOUR MIND TO!

    • i can relate. I have battled with lusting after women most of my life. when i was 10 or so. And through the years, things got worse, booze became a new friend but porn was still there in the shadows, lurking. Now, having the booze under control and having a family, i am still faced with the undressing women w/ my eyes and thinking about it. I pray about it and confessed to it. But it is still enticing. I told my wife and mom. They really did not understand too much. But i am okay with putting it out there. It is easier to abstain when others know what you are trying to do. You read in the good book that you commit lust in your heart. And that is a major no-no. It is adultry. Plain and simple. I want to get right with GOD. Not keep a small part to my self and pretend He does not know. He is all powerful and faith in Him is the solution. But I need help from others who know the pain like I do

  15. Hey Guys!
    It is your mind that stops you, nothing else! Believe u can stop it. U just have to keep urself away from it, it is not sooo hard, just believe and dont deviate from believing and not doing it. listen to heroic music, or whatever to distract you, do something to get in touch with your deeper emotions. It was once said, that repressed emotions leads to a lot of sexual desire. cut it down from doing it once a day, to once a week, but remember, sexuality is here for a reason, so dont repress it to death, just dont do it that often, and keep progressing, until u dont do it anymore or once a month. even that is damn good. And prayer wont work against you so do it too.

  16. I am back here again. I made the first comment on this website on 15/03/2008. That was a year ago. Sadly to say i am still on this, despite my many efforts of trying to quit it. There was a time when i held on for more than a month. Never thought i was able to do it, was amazed. But i succumbed to temptation yet again.

    Now, more than a later since my last comment. I really want to quit this. I don’t want to be addicted no more. I got a girl who i like and i am going to ask her to be my girlfriend soon. Quitting this addiction would be the best gift to her. I will do it, no matter how long, no matter what i have to do, i will quit this addiction. Then i will be back here and i will let you all know. Have faith people, eventually we are still the ones who control our lives. Nobody else can control us. We will stop this addiction. Truly believe it :]

  17. I made the first comment on this article 15/03/2008. Up till this day, i had limited success against my addiction. However, i really want to quit. But it always seems very ironic, with me saying i want to quit yet always falling to my addiction. I won’t give up this fight. No way, i have i a girl that i like. Overcoming this addiction would be the best gift to her. I shall carry on my battle against it!

  18. Had a bad habit – Key word had! I just got a hold of my life and didn’t want to look any more. It’s dishonoring my wife, my family and my God. Don’t have many years left and want to persue things that are uplifting and good. Porn leaves you felling ashamed and dirty. Tired of that. It profits you nothing. I’m clear. I’m free and it feels GREAT! Just had to tell someone. You can quit it cold Turkry – you just gota realize what is important in your life. So I did it – that’s the past. I’m going to stay free! I’m looking to brand new days of life and not being ashamed any more. I did it YOU can!

  19. When I wrote yesterday I was just beginning. I had been addicted to porn for a long long time. Know there are those out there that in the same situation and do want to stop. I went to ebb sites dealing with the problem. Some wanted to sell you a program (which I couldn‘t afford), some were strictly religious (which is not a bad thing; but you can not take away an addition, or anything, without realizing that you need to putt something back into the hole left in your mind that you have created). Religion is the spiritual part, a good sound plan of action is the second part. Some web sites want to scare or intimidate you with threat (give us your e-mail address and the next time you look at porn we will send it to your wife or friends). First thing, you want to be cured NOT just shocked or threatened out of it. You want to get rid of the addiction, so it doesn‘t plague you any more. Like I said, I have had this problem for many many years and just could not get rid of it. In my case, just wanting to stop doing it, didn’t solve the problem either and I sure wanted to stop. What worked for me may not necessarily work for you. You must find what works for you, that‘s part of the cure! Well here is what I finally did. (1) You must first admit that you have an addiction, as much an addiction as do drug addicts have. That porn will eventually destroy your mind as much as a drugs will. (2) Realize that you are dishonoring you wife, family and God, the most precious persons in your life. (3) That porn is, plain and simple, FILTH and ultimately profits you nothing. Porn only gives you a temporary fix, just like a drug addict. (5) Porn is a waste of time, as life is not a dress rehearsal.

    Once you have established items (1 – 5) the basis of porn and it‘s destruction upon you and those who love you, then you must decide if you really want to get rid of the addiction. This is how I did it. (1) looked for the cycle of porn. I did not have the desire every day. My cycle came around at times in which I was board and had nothing to occupy my thoughts. (2) Replace the hole you left in your mind with a hobby or interest that you can really enjoy and look forward to EACH day. (3) Get on your knees and ask God to help you, help you honor your wife, family and Him in breaking the porn addiction. Acknowledge that you NEED God’s help in breaking the porn
    addiction. God WILL help you; but you must do your part also. What is your part, rejecting porn as a destroyer of all that is good and leads to a wholesome productive life. (4) Challenge your self as if you are in the race of your life, as you are, to live each day porn free. Reward your self each day, if no more than just physiologically by feeling better about your self. (5) Start counting the number of consecutive days you have been porn free and watch them add up. If you should falter, DON’T give up, victory has never gone to those who quit. (6) love your wife and family, make them the center of you love.

    I am now over 30 days porn free and it feels terrific. I have no desire and don’t even care about porn any more. I have a beautiful wife and family. I am not proud of having this addiction; but if in telling you that there is HOPE, then by sharing with you that I had a bad disgusting addiction that I am ashamed of, will help those out there, then so be it.

    Just remember “ONLY THIS MOMENT IS YOURS – YOU CAN’T CHANGE WHAT YOU HAVE ALREADY DONE – BUT YOU SURE CAN CHANGE TO FUTURE”.

  20. hey Robert thank you for ur comment after reading everyone elses your is helping the best, I’m just starting to learn to stop n say no and you’ve inspired me to do so
    thanks I’ll keep you posted n maybe one day I won’t have the desire to do that like you it helps to know that someones been through it and come out the other side.

  21. Its so damn.. Hard.
    I feel like a monster. Porn and masturbation come hand in hand. No matter how many times I promise myself I wont do it again It happens, and I cave. Waking up everyday knowing it will be an ongoing battle. It is and will be a very long and hard issue. No matter what I know god will be here for me. But he fills so far. I dont know what to do.

  22. I have been married to my husband for 25 years and I love him dearly. The only issue we have suffered from during these years is one of Porn. For many years I have found that he pulls away, uses excuses of not being satisfied, no drive, to tired one excuse after another. It took a while for me to figure out what the truth was, although if I would be honest and really searched my soul I knew.. over time the damage was done. I was left feeling as if it was my fault. I was not desirable enough, eventive enough, skinny enough and so on. What this has done to me as a person is beyond anything I can describe in this blog. I wish there was an easy resolution.. a pill.. but in reality I know God delivers all that come to Him and he will heal the hurt.

    I would beg everyone that has written their thoughts to listen..

    I do understand, I have not criticized, I have tried to be supportive. But “The Addict” needs to understand the critical damage that is done in a marriage and/or relationships. Something that God gave us to be so beautiful, so emotionally forfilling becomes so hurtful to those you love and just sometimes more than not may destroy beyond what can be repaired if there is not honesty and having God in their lives.

    Realize this is a problem, God would have us as husband and wives to come together to try and heal. But to pull away with shame only comes destruction. Is that not what Satan wants.. is isolation.. guilt.. lack of any selfworth..

    Marriage is to be in sickness and health and this is a Sickness.. but, there is a line to be drawn that is different for everyone. Please dont let this line drawn with no point of return. Know that God will heal with true repentance and if there is truly love in a marriage time will heal those wounds as well as long as there is admition, no hiding in dark corners.. my encouragement to you is take this on as David took on Goliath, head on with no fear! With God all things are possible!

  23. I’ve had the problem of looking at porn for almost 3 years, i’m only young, but it’s taken such a grip on my life.
    It makes you feel dirty and ashamed. Countless times i’ve told myself that it’s stupid and just something everyone does, but it’s a lot more than that, especially when your a christian. So many times have i tried to give up on my own but it’s actually impossible, the only way i guess it can truely be solved is with God. But when i do it again I feel further and further away from him and when it happens quite regularly i find it hard to secure in my mind that it doesnt matter how many times i’ve done it or what i’ve looked at… Jesus doesn’t care about that, he only cares about me and you. I’ve heard that the best way to solve it is to tell someone because once this dark secret is out in the open it loses most of it’s power.
    I love God so much but find it hard to move forward with this filthly habit hindering my life.
    I’m so glad that theres a site like this which makes me realise i’m not going through this problem alone.
    The first step is admitting and i’ve done it.
    Problem is what happens when i’m put back into another dangerous situation where i’m likely to fail – i guess we’re not all perfect and need to realise it, but then again that’s why Jesus died on the cross for all of us – so that we would be free :D
    Sorry if i ranted on a bit, but i believe every single one of us can win this battle with God along side us :)

  24. Hey,listening to all u guys, m feeling m not alone. My sole purpose of writing is to admit that i m addicted to porn.
    makes u feel better. m young, h’ve college xams 2 give ,porn should b the last thing i should b doing. I’ve reduced it to 8 times a month since last year ,smtimes much lesser. i need some serious help guys. My lifes at stake. I’ll appreciate any1s advice.

  25. Listen,

    If you’re looking to recover, if you seriously want to escape, look no further than YOURSELF.

    Stop praying and hoping that somehow, as if my magic, you’re going to wake up free of those urges.

    I’ve been dealing with an addiction to porn since Jr. High — it comes and it goes, through girlfriends and through times with myself. It’s always lurking, and it always will be.

    The bottom line is that – when the desire is there – and you’re all alone, at your finger tips is literally a world of every possible conceivable fantasy. If you want it, you can find it. It starts small, and grows big. You get comfortable.

    Where does the cure lie? In realization. In realizing that while you’re there, pretending, there’s an ENTIRE world you’re missing. Truly. Every second you’re on Earth, your clock is ticking. Spending evenings locked indoors with the internet are some of my biggest regrets in life. Missing classes and appointments because I stayed up ’till 4am indulging. I’ve been there, man.

    The remorse is plenty, yet you always find yourself coming back… because it’s easy.

    God is good, and his love is great… just know, that ultimately, YOU are accountable for your actions, and are responsible from bringing yourself out from the depths to which you’ve fallen.

  26. I’ve been a sexual addict for almost all my life, i’ve had relapsed hundreds of time, it’s probably because my lack of information about this type of addiction. I’ve started to realize that this problem is really affecting my life recently, probably because i’ve gotten used to the effects for such a long time.
    After I read this forum, I now know that there are people out there that has the same problem as me and have successfully tackle the problem.
    Now I am determined to control my addiction and thanks to you guys, now I feel that I can do it. May god help me…..

  27. I guess the reason I feel compelled to post my thoughts on this site is because i deeply relate with the struggle of trying to overcome porn addiction. I am a Christian and I have struggled with this addiction for years on and off. I honestly know that God led me to see the posts on this site because he knew it would help me over come this problem and so far it has been SUCH a blessing. There’s such hope in this site. To know that I’m not the only one going through this battle gives me such strength. God has really used this site and the testimonies of you all to help me overcome my problem and already I have come so far. I give praise to God that there is still hope for us as long as we know Jesus as our savior. I have picked up some really helpful tips on how to avoid temptation from this sight and my shortcomings are becoming fewer and farther between, praise God! I’m not what I otta be but I’m so glad that I’m not where I used to be! We need never to give up this fight. I believe that God is able to deliver us if we keep our eyes on him. Thank you all for your input you have helped me so much God bless you. P.S. I recommend the article “How to Erase All Sexual Thoughts”, the technique seems elementary, but I tried it and it has really helped me out. Its all about focus and controlling your mind.

  28. i keep falling into the same issue where ill go without looking for a while, and right when i say that, i’ll be tempted and fall right into it. knowing what pain it’ll cause me, my girlfriend who hates that i watch it (i don’t blame her), the betrayal to God. My girlfriend (and soulmate) means everything to me and has tried everything to help me stop, and still i disrespect her and cheat on her with porn. I have to stop this, for her and for myself

  29. Here is a thought that helps me, these girls some very youngt are someones daughter, sister, cousin, and even mother. They are where they because of manipulation and often unstable psyches. How many are missing children, kidnapped, how many are immigrants brought elsewhere on a lie…even its one…is that the one your looking at. Doesn’t look so good now.

  30. Hi. I am so pleased to read from so many people all over the world – ready to overcome this evil of pornography. It shows that the problem might be universal afterall, but not invincible. I am 28 years of age. Going down the memory lane, I began watching porn at the age of 17. Then, it was a peep and nothing more. I always felt disdain for the pictures, pity for the actors… but a certain curiosity kept me going back to it. I must confess that I began seriously watching porn, graduating fast to hardcore around 3 years ago…. In my recent past, I have devoted hours upon hours to watching various forms of pornography. It is disgraceful. I even missed school one day, because I was engrossed in the porn I was watching online. It has led me into masturbating…a habit that leaves me wasted and tired. It robs me physically, emotionally and spiritually. I’ve learnt through my experience that Pornography is a passion that drives man to a bottomless pit. The passion can never be satisfied. It craves for more and more adventure. Lurid Sites that pissed me off before soon became my favourite, and no later, became insufficient to satisfy my licentious desires. Pornography is evil. It ensnares its merchants, buyers and the sold. It separates one from Deity and Duty. It has affected almost all my relationships…family, friends and colleagues, coz I hardly have time for them now. Pornography has stolen my life and time. But I know that I will get them all back, because God is always faithful. He will heal and bring us back, when we go back to him. For all who are in this struggle, I dare say: DON’T GIVE UP. We might have fallen, but we are not on the ground. The harder the struggle, the sweeter the reward. If the prize is not priceless, then, the evil of pornography would not be so grasping. Keep up the struggle

  31. (It’s long but please read…I hope it helps you as it has helped me)
    This has been my thorn in the side. Paul of the New Testament had a thorn in his side, whatever it was, and God was aware of it. Each of us have a thorn and weaknesses. Pornography and Masturbation have been my Achilles tendon. I naturally started masturbation at age 12, and realizing the negative effects it had on me, I began the struggle to quit. I at one time quit for over 2 years then relapsed after a relationship gone bad spiraled me into it’s grasp once again.

    Moments of IDLENESS is when it gets me. And when the temptation crosses my mind, my sense of reason goes haywire and I become careless. Carelessness numbs the feeling in me and even though I list why I shouldn’t relapse, I still fall victim to it. If I don’t immediately surrender my will, it lingers and lingers, and pokes at me until I’d rather get it over with then have it fester in me. But to get it over with is a cover up and is not short lived, rather, it grows and latches on you.
    Justification and rationalizing always get me into trouble. My justification is that I’d rather avoid weird and often times gross wet dreams at night and do it in a more sensible way. That thinking is hot wired in me and tends to trigger my inclination to relapse.
    I have realized and know the pattern of my downfall. I know what triggers it and at what times I’m most vulnerable. I know how it affects me and how it has left some desolate. Then why can’t I stop? you may ask. I think the bottom line is we are given agency, the freedom to choose and despite how petty or powerful the temptation is at the very moment it’s staring you in the face, nothing will save you but your own will. God leaves it up to us. In the moment temptation cornering me, it’s as though I see and hear God at the surface as I’m underwater being pulled under by a demon. He wants to save you but knows it can only be left up to you. He can’t interfere. Though it may seem impossible to break free from it’s grip and pull, every temptation is escapable. You just have to fight it as though your life depended on it. And in a true sense, your spiritual life depends on it.
    I am endeavoring to fight off the demon in that very moment it’s latch on to me, and will desperately try to hear the muffled faint voice of God and prove to him myself, the strength I have to stripped the hands of the demon off of me and overcome the urge to relapse. It’s then that we surface and hear very clearly the voice of God and feel of his love.
    God knew many of his children would struggle with this and therefore made for us an escape out of it…our freedom to CHOOSE. Choose the path less travelled by and your reward shall be great and eternal.
    God bless you all in this great struggle and in the very moment temptation latches on to us, may we have the will power to fight it off and be at peace.
    Thank you for reading.

  32. I am a husband and father of 2 wonderful boys. I have struggled with this porn addiction since I was exposed to it at school at the age of 13/14. I have promised God so many times that I am finished with this and will not masturbate or look at porn again. I really felt that when I got married, this burden would only get a lot better to bear and would disappear into the distance. My relationship with my wife however, was based on physical and sexual connection from the porn of all types I had been exposed to and exposed myself to. On two occassions, my wife even walked in on me & I somehow was able to explain it away.
    I don’t knowanymore how to stop this terrible disease in my life as I feel that all I have is slowly slipping away & I am losing touch with reality. I have even blamed the lack of frequent sex in my opinion for my reason to masturbate. This terrible disease has taken so much away from me over the years. Years that I will NEVER be able to recover. My prayer is that my Father God will intervene in my & so many of your lives in dealing with this terrible curse & deliver us from this once & for all.
    Stay strong & truly believe that what you ask of Him, He will hear you and deliver you. Don’t wait too long to change or to make the quality decision that with His help, you will beat this curse in your life & live the life He has called you to live. God Bless us and empower us all in this road to release and recovery.

  33. Hey,
    Wow, its so crazy to see how far this terrible adiction can take us. i want to thank you all so much for writing these posts up. They have really shown me that its a long and tough process to get rid of porn in your head( or at least control it). I am a teenager whom has been adicted for 2 or 3 years and i wana quit so bad. I will keep u all in my prayers and please pray for me. I really dont want this to take my life. I have it down to one or two days a week and im aiming for zero!! Please pray!

  34. hi my name is john,i have a problem that i want you to give me some ideas on how to curb it…am 29 years of age..i have been watching porn and masturbating since i was 14 and now i have a massive problem..from march last year i started watching transexuals and now it has become a big problem for me as any man i see looks like a transexual and am kinda a homophobia..is giving me a big problem,i know am straight,i dont like men at all,no way,i love women and would want to get married..i keep having thoughts and dreams of transexuals and gay,but am not attracted to them at all..what can i do pls,pls help me!!

  35. Being addicted to porn is just as bad as being addicted to sex. I have tried to quit and have looked elswhere to hide my dirty little secret. I have cleaned up my hard drive many times erasing all the porn sites I have visited but still the problem exists. Where to go from here!!

  36. Thank you for this opportunity to share. I’ve been addicted for over 10 years due to the ease the internet. Unfortunately, I have seen the evolution of internet access. Thank you for your comments because I feel like I have the strength to continue to try with grace and strength. The articles have helped me with the strategies to overcome, especially the idea of welcoming the temptation as an opportunity to focus on other details around me. Please pray for me because I know I will need it but I am again encouraged by your writings and your faith.

  37. I have been addicted for a long time to masturbation. The internet has only made it worse and I needed to have more and more “hard core” porn to satisfy myself. I made a choice to stop and it has been 55 long days since I have seen porn or masturbated. The 55 days have been long and hard. I am determined to keep going and free myself but it is very hard. This website has been a lifeline for me. I know that I am not alone in this struggle and there are others struggling to be free too. God bless!

  38. I have been using porn about two to three times a week to masterbate sometimes more during the winter months. I am ok with masterbation and I think its healthy when done in moderation but using porn makes me feel shallow and like a low life.

    I pray to god to give us the strength to live and think rightly from this day forward. Lets battle this like warriors !!!! Pray everyday . Don’t give up on god because he will never give up on us. We have one life to live fill our lives with good things.

  39. I am still a really young teenager and I can’t stop myself secretly going on the computer looking for porn. Ive tried to stop countless times but after a few days, I can’t stop myself. Once Ive done it, i feel so bad and wonder why I couldn’t have stopped in the first place. This is my guilty addiction which really makes me ashamed of myself and feel that i don’t deserve such good friends and family. Can someone please pray for me because I really want to stop. I want to let people know that this is actually harder than I thought it would have been. The only reason why i started was the devil. He is sooo sneaky. I hate him so much. Porn has totally wrecked my mental and emotional life. I am not brave enough to tell my family, friends or pastor. I am too ashamed. Please pray for me cos I am having trouble battling against porn addiction and masturbation. Thanks =D

  40. Today I Prayed asked GOD to Stop my addiction to Sex and Cyber Porn addiction. I came across this site Read EVERY post and accept the challenge of what I MUST do to overcome THESE addictions. I was looking for a Prositute TODAY but I will refrain, Will destroy my porn collection and began to work on changing my Trigger patterns emotions for the addictions. Reading All of you alls post has helped and inspired and I hope you all are inspired as well. We Can get through this with GODS Mercy and follow his will, words and ways as ALL time Hope GOD blesses you all the addicts, co addicts and recovery addicts GOD bless us ALL>

  41. hi every one i am 12 years old and i have a problem with porn it has got me in so much trouble that i might go to military school for it god will help me i know but i wish porn never exsited all types i wish never exsited it makes me feel bad i wish someone would reply

  42. Just like many of you, I have given this problem over to God. This time, it is different. I no longer feel the fear that I have lived with. I have gone a week with relative ease and I feel like I have finally found the issue for me. It was the struggle, the pain and then the commiting of the act. It became a very serious cycle that I was addicted to. I believe that it is like a bear trap – the more I struggled, the more it hurt and the more pain I felt. Now, I have decided that giving it to God means the same as it means for anything else – as long as it is His, I will win. When it becomes mine again, I lose. Do not try, rather decide and do! Also, realize that you did not just pick this up in a day or two or three. This has been building in your life and progressing in a way that is self defeating and tears you down. You cannot put this out of your life in a day. You can and should commit to a journey – the journey of allowing God to rid you of it. God bless you all and never forget just how much Jesus loves each and every one of you! He did then, he does this very second and will for eternity. Ask Him!

    • This week I have made the initial strides to stop my addiction. Lately I have grown in many areas spiritually when I decided to rededicate myself to the Lord but this addiction to masturbation has been holding me back as of late. I’m very proud of going out and drinking way less, as I used to go out everyweekend. And there are other strides I’ve made as well such as consulting the Bible and the scriptures daily or at least weekly. I making many progresses and I have been blessed by the Lord Jesus in making these progresses but I decided yesterday that I need to stop my addiction to porn and masturbation.
      I believe I realized why I have been tormenting myself and the main reasons for why I return to this habbit. First I believe a have a low self image of myself. I think I let guilt from my parent’s divorce and my dad’s decision to be a homosexual affect how I think about myself. Because I have a low self esteem, my social interactions with women are usually worse and in many cases I’m too shy and I have reverted to masturbation for too long.
      I can see by the other posts that this is truly a tormenting sin. For me this has truly become tormentful because in the past year or so I have been watching worse kinds of porn. Also there was an experience I had with someone who I chose as a best friend for many years but he was a very bad influence. He often tempted me to try and score with girls and think bad lustful thoughts. Then one day he tried to seduce me in my room and that has forever left a scar on me. Lately I’ve been getting images of homo rotic thoughts and they scare me because I know i’m not a homo sexual but ever since I followed sinners and behaved in this way, I have been tormenting myself further and further. I have truly let the views of sinners and the harmful acts they have done to me break much of my will and torment my mind.
      Thus I have decided to stop tormenting myself. That’s why I set up parenting controls on this computer. Blocked porn sites just in case. Go to this website for help. I want to be the best christian I can be, but I know that is dificult when I keep feeling guilty and trapped in the sins I do not want to commit. I will pray for you all my brothers and I believe that God can help us change our ways. If you have advice for I may let those certain past events torment, I would greatly apreciated in hearing them.

  43. @Brendan
    My name is Parker.
    I had my first experience with pornography when I was seven years old. It had a hold on me for 11 years of my life until recently. Though I still find myself dabbling lightly in soft porn (Which I am having a hard time with and is why I am here), though I have kicked hardcore, videos, and masturbation.
    I would like to share what I’ve learned so folks like the 12 year old above me do not have to endure what I did. I will be frank.
    The hard facts:
    – Society at large knows pornography and sexual exploitation is wrong. However, to justify its actions, pornography and gratuitous sexual innuendo has worked its way into popular media by scared and ashamed crouching masturbators just like you and I. And so, slowly, these norms of female disrespect and sexual looseness have invaded our values en masse due to the huge impact media has on our lives. It goes like this: in the medieval ages and before actions like rape, adultery, and in some cases even lusting after a married woman were punishable by death. But slowly as materials and ideas became more distributable and common, the sexual perversions of a few deviants were accessible by the people in their region, then nation, and now with the advent of the internet, available accidentally to a seven year old child on the other side of the world. As the accessibility grew, so did the acceptance, until now when you can’t go a day on mainstream TV without hearing or seeing something inappropriately sexual.
    The media has dumbed down our values and is now capitalizing on it via pornography.
    Remember this when you laugh at a sexual joke on TV, but then feel ashamed after you’ve looked at pornography.
    ——-
    -Something that delays or personal improvement in people -trying to quit pornography is the thought that “I will be able change when I _____” i.e. “I will be able to quit when I am married and am sexually active with my wife” or “I will be able to quit when I have that job and have less idle time alone.”
    The hard fact of the matter is if you want to change, you must change now. Right now. As a 9 year old I would have NEVER imagined that I would still be into it when I was 19. And yet 10 years later there I was. 10 years from now you will be the same person with the same desires regardless of marriage, children, the amazing job, or the hot girlfriend, unless you make a rock-solid DECISION TO CHANGE Right. Now.
    That realization was the turning point for me. In the future I want nothing more to have an grade-A incredible relationship with my wife and a beautiful and trusting relationship with my children.
    Pornography does not factor in there.
    I need to have the utmost respect for my wife and her womanhood which is not possible when saturated with images of fakery and disrespect. And I need the confidence and rock-solid values needed to raise kids lovingly. Rather than creeping away into the den and not being able to look my wife or kids in the face.
    Remember, just like many great things, pornography and sexual addiction can be likened unto a seed; if it is planted and you continue to water it (even slightly) it will grow.

    Please, for your sake and the sake of your family or future family, starve the seed!
    Good luck fellows and ladies. I will truly be praying for
    you, please do the same for me.
    – Parker

  44. THIS PORN IS A CURSE, DISEASES or VIRUS it is backstabber, lier and its like a conqueror that when it attack it can not be defeated, a temporary patch in a hole that keep coming back. Worse commit you to adultery and all kinds of emotional and psychological problem, ..

    please forgive my English. I’m asian lived in philippines and I’ve brought my parents in sunday school and church in christian life, my life is good, I have a wife and no children, without the love of my family I’m TOTALLY DONE probably dead already… but still very much affected by this deadly invincible virus, it affect my inner self, Unnoticeable I feel frustrated, depress, bored Isolated in many times and always, irritated, lots of complain in office or at home. When I was young I felt I’m inferior to other student I’m sad it became constant, I go to porn when I was very prostrated and rebellious in life but this porn for 20 years it keeps betraying me, I always look to girls EVERYDAY like I want to make love with them, young or old. This curse make me impotent in life very passive, and sometimes I feel I have done many good and great things if I never got on to this curse., Now I need help to eradicate this dirty habit and be able feel better EVERYDAY without this I so called curse or disease.

    CAUSE of this VIRUS/CANCER/CURSE IN MY self and LIFE

    1st degree. Slowly makes me ALWAYS depress, prostrated, bored, and anxiety. to patch it with this hole I go to porn and masturbate.
    And always look to a girl with dirty/malicious mind

    2nd degree. committing Adultery ALWAYS and always hungry for it!

    3rd degree, Now Im ALWAYS jealous, bitter, hater, malicious, envious, passive, selfish, weak, inferior NO HOPE in life. name it!

    ALARMING?

    1st, 2nd and 3rd always deep inside of me everyday, its now alarming. Like a monster inside of you (vampire, warewolf), anytime can go out in you and there is nothing you can do.

    The only weapon I have, is every time I’ve been defeated/ KO I will get up again and fight and start all over again because this is the only way I know I can do. Prayers everyday ask god to strengthen me. Like you I’m on VERY deep on this and need to climb up and overcome it completely.

    Now this day I notice it all and right down all of this-THANK GOD ALMIGHTY HE IS GREAT AND AWESOME… JESUS IS PERFECT AND HE LOOK AT US TO HELP INSTEAD TO JUDGE US RIGHT AWAY. HE IS A DOCTOR FOR A SICK MAN LIKE you and me. keep fighting because I will as long I can breath because Im TOTALLY desperate on this.

    IT IS NOW TIME TO EXAMINE YOURSELF because I KNOW SOME OF YOU INCLUDING MYSELF AFTER READING THIS WILL GO BACK ON SOME OTHER TIME/ DAY FINDING YOURSELF DOING THIS KIND OF EVIL THING! this is virus/curse/ deases or simply a strong evil thing!

  45. I have been struggling wit porn addiction for about seven years. Although it was worse a few years back I still have problems erradicating it from my life completely. I think the problem is that as I am being tempted I momentarily forget how bad I am going to feel later and become overwhelmed b the temptation. One thing I have tried the last few times when I get tempted is that instead of visiting a porn site I visit sites on how to stop porn addiction and I instead of feeling all the bad emotions after I close my computer I feel all the good ones. Instead of feeling guilt I feel responsible. Instead of being ashamed I feel like I held myself accountable. Instead of feeling less complete I feel more complete. Instead of feeling unsatisfied with m behavior I feel more satisfied. It really has helped and I can carry on with my day with much more happiness. I have come to believe in God like many of you and relying on His forgiveness as also been great.
    Going to this site and others tat talk about tis issue has made me feel less alone and more empowered to gain control of my life again. I just want to end by saying thanks to everyone who posted! It really helped and I hope my post helps some people struggling out there too! I know we can heal within if we believe we can do it!

  46. I have dealt with porn problems for years. I was born again in Christ about 6 months ago and for about 5 months I didn’t even think about pornography. Then one day I was online and a picture of sexy girl in bikini showed up and from there temptation set in and it consumed my mind. I kept telling myself not to go there but then I kept seeing more girls and then I started searching for more pictures and that was it. I was back to looking at pornography. After that happened, I prayed and asked for repentance and I was free of pornography for a month and then the temptation hit me again and started in sin again. This goes on periodically because I can only use my self control for a short time. The urge and temptation to feel satisfied with pornography is so strong like the need to eat. When I’m done looking at pornography I feel empty and sick and full of shame and feel like I just hung out with the devil. Please help me and pray for me.

  47. i have a severe porn addiction, im 35yo, started since i was 11 yo. im not religious but i dont judge, i listen to heavy metal music.i drink and smoke weed daily. this makes me even more perverted. my wife has begged me for years to seek help. i know i have some hatred against women but i cant stop staring at them. i worked in a store and i used to stay by the women dressingrooms. im tired of beeing so sick and perverted, causing my wife so much pain. i cant go ask god for help cause i dont know if there is a god. i have so many addiction. im always doing perverting acts. im just getting worse, all my life is base in sex. i have no friends,i dont like people.i dont like my family. im not a bad man down in me. i have so many regrets,my wife is miserable, im glad i have no kids. im a human waste

  48. I have been visiting porn sites since i am 15 and i dont know why, ever since then, I keep on doing this until such time it became an addiction and worse, this habit evolve to masturbation. after i have done such thing, i always felt frustrated, left alone and the worst person. I tried not to go back to this habit but it came to the point that it always hit me and felt that my morale is deteriorating. PLEASE HELP ME AND PRAY FOR ME

  49. I have had this problem for a long time, since the age of 6. I found dads Pics, evolved into dads movies. Didn’t know this was a problem. I loved the feeling. Things progressed, into masturbation, looking at women with different eyes, dirty thoughts. 20 years went on this way. Then i met my wife. God I love this Lady. She thought the world of me. Months after moving in she had seen that i had watched a porn movie on the computer, and for the first time in my life, someone had a problem with me and porn. I confessed ( of course after lying about it first) and told her that i would never do it again. That was a LYE. I was back into it again, and the next time I got caught I said i”m sorry and will never do it again. Well after this happening 5-6 times my wife has totally lost all lust, passion, TRUST, feeling and pride for the best man to ever enter her life. Last weekend she caught me on Facebook looking at provocative pictures of women. I try so hard to quit, but only with self resistance, never with words or help from others, I WANT to stop,, I WANT to feeling good about myeslf and my thoughts, I WANT my wife to feel secure again and be able to trust Her husband again. Before I think I was trying to quit for the wrong reason, because it is bad and looked down upon, But for some reason this time I understand something I never Had before. This is a disease, an addiction that takes real work and dedication to overcome, its more than just the need its a fix and a filler. It destroys relationships and your general look at life. I need help, I WANT to fix myself and rid myself of this behavior for good. I WANT me WIFE back, the only thing that keeps me living is her, why didn’t I understand the pain and suffering I’ve caused her trough out these past seven years of marriage. She is such a good person and I do not want to put her or myself through another episode like this. Please any words of wisdom or help is greatly appreciated. I love this site, it has opened my eyes in so many ways and I can’t wait to use some of the tricks i have learned to sustain from the urge to break another promise. To my loving wife, I LOVE YOU> This is the END… DJ

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