“All or Nothing” Rarely Works with Porn Addiction

One lesson I found very hard to learn as I set out to overcome porn addiction is that most of the time success will come gradually. There are those who appear to drop the addiction and never have the problem again. However, for most people, this is not the case. Most people have to gradually overcome these addictions for it requires a changing of the heart which only comes with time and effort.

I’ll be honest with you, I wanted success and I wanted it now, not later. I wanted to make a great effort in the beginning then glide through life with ease. This attitude and expectation only prolonged my recovery. It wasn’t until I realized that the freedom I wanted would come gradually and over time that I had real success. On that note I will say that even with this corrected attitude I still needed the correct methods of overcoming addiction which came from the porn addiction recovery program that I have written a review on.

So when you start working with the correct methods you must pace yourself and not expect perfection. What you can expect, so long as you persevere and pick yourself up quickly every time you fall, is to get stronger and stronger. Trying to be perfect or perfectly handle every temptation will only bring failure. It is almost a guarantee that you will stumble and make mistakes as you set out to gain control of your life. Don’t let these setbacks discourage because you are most likely closer to success than you think.

The analogy I started using is playing sports. If you start out playing football you’re probably not going to be very good. But if you keep going to the games and keep practicing you will get better and better. You will make errors and mistakes, its expected. However, you don’t give up and throw the game just because you made a mistake. No, you get back in the game and try to do better. This applies to life and it applies to overcoming porn addiction. When you make a mistake just get back in the game of working to overcome and do better than before without expecting perfection. You will progress in amazing ways with this attitude and approach.

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3 Steps to Overcome Porn

Helps with:

  • Porn Addiction
  • Masturbation Addiction
  • Sexual Addiction
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15 thoughts on ““All or Nothing” Rarely Works with Porn Addiction

  1. This addiction is tough to break and you will fall down. The difference between someone who wins the battle vs. someone who doesn’t is that they keep persevering. They do not give up!

  2. thanks a lot for your website, i really think i will use your aproach, seems a good way, i always think the same way as you, i want real success, NOW, not later, i always get in this cycle.. i just cannot wait, so thanks, i now know that i have to get into this process to end my masturbation habit. :)

  3. Yea all i can say is that my buddy told me about this website and i have been a masterbation and porn addict for seven years. i want to change my perverted mind and also get out of my addictions to make me a better person, and to also hopefully keep a relationship for more than a week. I do have a girlfriend we have been going out for 5 days now, and she knows alot about me but she sorta knows im perverted. i have been really good and trying to control myself but the one thing she doesnt know yet is that i have the two addictions and i just figured out that i have a masterbation addiction just now so yea… im sorry for my grammar and punctuation but i absolutly know i will get past my problems and hopefully have a better relationship than my past 3….

  4. When ever I get tempted, I visit this site and read articles and comments and it helps put out the fire. Thats the only thing that has really worked for me. Porn is all about lies and illusions and traps. this site is about truth, reality and freedom. What we fill our eyes with will fill our whole body.

    • This kind of addiction is not something that can be easily overcome. A lot of the guys, I think, I know for myself, start to look at pornography, thinking they can be a macho guy and overcome it. Don’t even start! It is also about admitting that we are messed up, and acknowledging it is the first step. Do you really want to live in lies, illusions and fantasies? I think we deserve more than the lies and empty promises pornography makes.

  5. I am a female, highly addited to internet porn. I always thought, ‘Well who am I hurting? It’s easy and it’s free.’
    It’s hurting me. I can no longer orgasim through regular sex with my man. I am often late for work. My home is a pigsty. I always, always feel fithy after I finish. I don’t know what to do. ‘m hoping this site and others like it will help me. Thing is, it’s all men on these sites. No women. I feel very alone in this.

    • I know exactly how you feel. All you ever here is that MEN are into porn, and that ONLY MEN masturbate. I feel as though if women have the problem it is disgusting, or unnatural. I hope that we can both see that WE are not alone, and that WOMEN make mistakes just the same as men. Men and Women are together in this addiction!

      You are now my inspiration to overcome this addiction… knowing that I am NOT alone.

      -Charlie

  6. I hate the rollercoaster of guilt that I put myself through, by continually looking at porn. I’m in a position where I can’t see myself confessing my sin openly to people I live with and work with. I just want free of this, but I’m not sure I’ll get free without confessing this openly. Are there any of you, out there, that have kicked this addiction without having told people around you? Is it possible?

  7. I’ve yet to overcome porn, even though I’ve stopped for some weeks. I am beginning to think that I won’t fall back on it. I wish I could say 100% that I am never going to fall back on it. Porn, strip joints are very addictive. No matter how strong you are or mentally willed, once you connect to it, even a peek, it’ll suck you in super fast, like a very strong whirl. Why even go there, there is no way to win. We are like gasoline, it only takes one spark to set us off completely into flames.

    The purpose of porn is to introvert the individual and to disempower him. It makes people lazy, and it sucks the living life of one. It stimulates the mind negatively, and fixates the individual tremendously. I speak from experience, at this point of my life I feel like a sombie. It really does kill one spiritually. I am trying to recover that precious innocense and purity that I once had.

    • I’ve beenhooked into porn all my life and I’m 59 years old, so its been a long journey. When I’m depressed and sad I use porn as aspirin to a headache. I use the porn to ease my anxiety and fears. I lose myself in the fantasy, unfortunately all the anxiety and fears come back and it takes more titillating porn to give me the freedom from the pain that everyone whose paticipating in life feels. I love wife and I’m cheating on her with the images that dance in my brain. I’m cheating her out of a relationship where she is the center of my life. I got a problem.

  8. I have been looking at porn and masturbating for a long time more than twenty five years. It started when I first found one of my fathers hidden porn mags, (back then there was no internet) I am now 39 and still struggle with the addiction, I think I am mildly addicted but addicted all the same. I have tried to stop and will go for a month or so but than I can’t resisted the urge, than I will get right back into it a waste all kinds of time looking at porn, pages and pages so much sick stuff on line. I am married have two kids and love my wife, but she c an’t satisfy me the porn does not help.
    This site is great as I am back on the wagon after falling off for a few days after a little over a month of abstaining.
    It is true it gets easier and easier to keep your mind off of it and this site definitely kills the urge. I have decided to stop all on myself wile my wife was away with my kids I had some time to think and introspect and realize how damaging it is and how unproductive I am when I am into porn, it’s like you don’t have your life and live for the fix, it has led me to keep secret email addresses, creditcard, numerous sexual encounters, a couple of affairs, but the intimacy is not there, I like being with my wife a lot better, it is not the way I want to spend my life and is not what I want to teach my kids.
    I did not know i was addicted, but now I feel it is very disgusting and all things ugly.
    Thank you for the support and most of all the education.

  9. My boyfriend has been looking at porn and masturbating most of his life. He’s been rejected sexually by the 2 partners he’s had before me. Now he’s with me, who has a very high sex drive, masturbation does nothing for me, and I prefer his touch. However, he has zero sex drive when it comes to wanting me. He says he loves me, and he shows it in many ways except out sex life SUCKS! He masturbates 3 to 4 times a day to porn. I’ve caught him many times, and he stops and closes the web browser and is all embarrassed, but I can’t get him to understand that he’s got a problem. He doesn’t see himself as having a problem because he’s been doing it for so long, and he doesn’t see it as a sexual act. To him it’s just a thing he does. However any counselor will tell you the act is to “stimulate a SEXUAL organ to come to a climax.” I don’t know what to do to make him realize he’s hurting me, makes me feel insecure and like I am not satisfying him even though he says I do. I’ve told him how I feel, and how it makes me feel, but he doesn’t seem to care. Now, I’m in counseling now for it. I know it’s not me, however, I can’t help but feel like it is. Is there anyway to get him to acknowledge what it is and what it’s doing to us without hurting our relationship? He and I are coming apart over it, and I don’t want to loose him over something so stupid.

  10. Hey I’ve been struggling with this for a whole and I always beat myself up wheni fail. No matter how many times I Promise i never will do I again I keep falling. I know god forgives me and I never use that as an excuse to son. But you guys are saying its ok to fail you will eventually overcome his sin? Bc sometimes I feel like I fail so much it may never come. But I sincerely do believe god will get me through this.. I guess what I’m saying is I want out of this sin like stated and out now~ but for most of us itll come eventually. Please reply back.

  11. I have been a porn addict since I was in high school(I’m 23 going on 24 now) and I think that now is the perfect time to change my life around

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